Stop people-pleasing.
Start living like your needs matter, too.
Stop people-pleasing.
Start living like your needs matter, too.
We coach women who are done with people-pleasing to set boundaries, trust their voice and build mutual, respectful relationships.
I coach women who are done with people-pleasing to set boundaries, trust their voice and build mutual, respectful relationships.
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How much longer can you sacrifice
yourself for everyone else?
How much longer can you sacrifice yourself for everyone else?
You’ve been overriding your own needs just to keep the peace.
Hosting family dinners when you’re already on empty.
Dropping everything for people who expect your time without asking.
Swallowing discomfort just to avoid conflict.
And it’s not just one part of your life, it’s all of it.
At work, you take on too much to avoid disappointing anyone.
With family, you keep quiet to prevent tension.
In friendships, you give more than you get.
And in relationships, you stay small, afraid that asking for what you need will push people away.
These moments add up.
They drain your time, dull your confidence and leave you wondering who you even are anymore.
We can help you take your time and energy back, without guilt, overthinking and sacrificing your peace to keep others comfortable.
I'm Kala, & I know what it’s like to lose yourself trying to make everyone else happy.
I'm Kala, & I know what it's like to lose yourself trying to make everyone else happy.
For years, I lived for everyone but me, silencing my needs, overgiving and chasing approval just to feel liked.
My marriage was the breaking point. I was exhausted, resentful, and finally asked myself: “Why are all my relationships so one-sided?”
The answer? I was afraid of rejection. I didn’t know how to set boundaries. And I believed my worth came from keeping everyone else happy. That’s when I realized the change I needed wasn’t in them. It was in me.
Rebuilding wasn't easy, but it was life-changing. I found my voice and set boundaries. I stopped shrinking to fit in. Now, I live with confidence, calm, and real connection and I want that for you, too.
My 4-week coaching program helps you step out of people-pleasing, speak up for yourself and start living like your needs matter.
Ready to one up your level?
We'll take the first step with you.
What if coaching helped you finally put yourself first, without the guilt?
- Make decisions that honor your needs, not just keep the peace.
- Say "No," without spiraling into guilt, overthinking, or second-guessing.
- Trust yourself to set limits without needing everyone else's approval.
- Set boundaries that feel clear, calm and non-negotiable without over-explaining.
- Know exactly what to say when someone pushes back or tests your limits.
- Protect your time, energy and emotional space and feel good about it.
- Say the things you've been holding back, without fear of being misunderstood.
- Feel safe being honest about your needs, even when it feels uncomfortable.
- Leave each session with clarity, confidence and small steps that feel doable, not overwhelming.
Start Living for You
One Small Step at a Time
Step
Reflect on What You Need
Take a few minutes to think about what you're ready to leave behind and what you want more of in your life.
The first step begins with honoring that your needs deserve space, support and care.
Step
Apply for Coaching
Complete a short, supportive application. No pressure, no obligation, just a chance to explore whether this feels like the right next step for you.
Step
Take Your First Step Toward You
If it feels aligned, you'll be personally invited to begin. From there, we’ll map out a simple, supportive path centered around your needs, not everyone else’s.
At One Up Your Level,
Coaching Shouldn’t Trigger the Very Patterns You’re Trying to Heal
At One Up Your Level,
Coaching Shouldn’t Trigger the
Very Patterns You’re Trying to Heal
You’ve spent years tiptoeing around other people’s moods, adjusting your tone, your plans, even your personality, just to keep things from getting tense.
You filter your words.
You downplay your needs.
You carry the emotional labor in relationships because it feels safer than risking discomfort.
But now, you’re exhausted from doing everything right and still feeling unseen.
You’re ready to change, but not if it means entering another space where you have to overthink, overexplain, or overfunction and still feel shame to feel supported.
Most coaches use shame to sell change. At One Up Your Level, we don’t. We do things differently and so will you.
We don’t shame women into change, we help them recognize their patterns without mistaking them for who they are.
We don’t call women “people-pleasers” as if it’s who they are.
We help them see it’s what they do and more importantly, what they can stop doing without guilt or fear.
Our approach is rooted in compassion, clarity and accountability, not labels, diagnosis, or emotional pressure.
Because real transformation doesn’t happen when you feel shamed.
It happens when you feel safe enough to choose differently.
At One Up Your Level, support doesn’t feel like another emotional trap.
It feels like a turning point, like one-upping your level into a version of you that finally feels free from people-pleasing.
F.A.Q.
Frequently Asked Questions
Coaching might be a great fit if:
You’re ready to start prioritizing yourself, even if it feels unfamiliar.
You want to stop overgiving and second-guessing every decision.
You’re craving clarity, confidence, and support, not just more information
If you’re feeling deeply overwhelmed, working through trauma, or struggling to function day-to-day, a licensed therapist may be a better first step.
Your well-being comes first and therapy can help you get grounded before diving into this kind of personal growth work.
No, prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s essential.
People who are used to you always saying “yes” might resist at first. That’s their discomfort, not a sign that you’re doing something wrong.
The people who genuinely care about you will respect your boundaries. And If someone keeps pushing back, it’s not that you’re doing something wrong, it’s that your boundaries are disrupting a dynamic they benefited from.
This isn’t about perfection, it’s about giving you real support that actually sticks.
During our four weeks together, you’ll learn how to make decisions that feel good to you, set boundaries in real-life situations and stop spiraling when guilt or pushback arises.
You won’t leave with just a “plan," you’ll walk away with clarity, scripts, confidence and a new way of thinking that supports you beyond the program.
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