Why do you find yourself saying yes, even when you don’t want to?

You agree. You smile. You move on. And only later does it hit you:

"I didn’t actually want to do that."

"I go along with things I don’t want, then sit with the resentment later and still somehow make it my fault."

This doesn’t usually look dramatic.

It looks like:

  • Going along with plans you didn’t choose.

  • Letting someone decide because pushing back feels uncomfortable.

  • Saying “it’s fine” and dealing with the feeling later.

For you, the yes just happens — before you’ve had time to decide.

You might recognize yourself here:

  • You agree in the moment and replay the situation or conversation afterward.

  • You avoid saying no by finding exits, excuses, or delays.

You’re trying to avoid the tension you expect if you say what you actually want.

This pattern didn’t come out of nowhere.

There is a reason it shows up this way, even if you’ve never been able to put words to it.

This short ebook isn’t about changing your behavior.


It’s about understanding what’s happening before you turn it into something being wrong with you.

If you want to understand what’s actually happening in those moments, you can start here.

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